January 2016 | bostonmuslimah

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Ririn Ekawati (Foto: Radarcirebon)

ANAK-ANAK sering rewel di pesawat, baik akibat tekanan udara maupun turbulensi. Aktris cantik Ririn Ekawati punya cara biar anak tidak pernah rewel.

Fasilitas di pesawat ternyata membuat anak Ririn menjadi tenang dan tidak rewel seperti anak yang lain. Karena sang anak menikmati hiburan sehingga tidak berpikir tentang hal buruk di esawat.

“Anakku tidak rewel saat duduk di pesawat. Karena dia menikmati hiburan yang disediakan di pesawat, seperti nonton film,” kata Ririn kepada Okezone di Gedung Djakarta Theater XXI, Thamrin, Jakarta Pusat, Rabu 7 Januari 2015.

Hal tersebut membuat pemeran Salma dalam film ‘Di Balik 98’ ini merasa senang. Karena ia tidak repot mengatur dan meminta anaknya untuk tenang. Kepanikan anaknya masih dalam tahap wajar, sebab sang anak hanya minta Ririn memeganginya ketika pesawat mendarat.
“Paling di saat landing pesawatnya suka goyang-goyang, dia cuma minta pegangan tangan,” tutup Ririn.
Assalam alaykum

I have had many nice hijab moments but I think the best one of all happened over the past few days. I believe that without pain one cannot fully appreciate joy. Well that held true for me yesterday no doubt.

I have been trying to find a way to tell my mom that I wear hijab. I waited until I was absolutely sure I'd stick with it since why bother causing myself such grief when I could whip it off in a month or so. Anyway I had the perfect opportunity to tell her in my own goofy way that I normally reveal bad news. As an aside I loved the part in Steel Magnolias where they're in Dolly Parton's hair salon chit chattin' away and one woman tells the story of how this gay man goes to his parents house and tells them , "mom, dad......I am dying and have 1 month to live". After they fall apart and start to wail he says, "just kidding I'm gay!". lol.

Last Friday I was at my local Stop n Shop standing in the cashier line behind a woman who was in her late 60's early 70's. Very proper woman with perfect hair, perfect makeup, etc. She had scowled at me when we passed each other by a few times up and down the aisles so when I planted my cart behind her in the line she gave me a look to kill and said to me, "why don't you just go home where you belong???" Quick witted as I am I replied, "well if you'd hurry up I WOULD go home...I don't like being here anymore than you do!!" (I'm kidding....I'm totally not quick witted but when I started to wear hijab I thought up all these nice lil retorts though this was thankfully the first time I ever had to use one. )

So............I used this as an excuse to tell my mom. I called her up, told her the story and without commenting too too much she ended our converstation a wee bit abruptly with that voice that every daughter knows which conveys total disappointment. I didn't call her for a few days because I wanted her to calm down and quite frankly I am 42 years old and have had enough of the "Im so disappointed in you" speeches in my life so far.

Well....yesterday she called me and said, "do you have a minute?". SURE!!! lol. She told me that she went to get her nails done and who did her nails but this girl named Ayesha who wore that thing on her head like you said you do. I just wanted to get my toenails painted but the woman insisted on massaging my feet as well. After she painted them she asked if I'd like a 15 minute neck massage on the house. I've never felt so pampered and loved in all my life!!!

So that's my nice hijab story. :) It was painful the first few days because I felt rejected by my mother for the umpteenth time in my life but when she told me that story I could not help but think that this was a huge sign from above telling me not only is it right for me to cover my head but not to worry about other people's opinion.....He'll take care of all that. :)
Assalam alaykum,

One of my alltime favorite sites is http://www.deviantart.com/ . I just type in the mood I'm feeling and shaBAM, out comes a few pages of art describing it. Today I'm daydreaming of where I want to travel to within the US once my husband gets here inshallah and above is the picture that describes that dreaming perfectly. As a little girl ( and even an adult some days) I'd pick these up from my lawn, make a wish and blow..................little did I knew I was sending weed seeds off to whoevers poor unsuspecting lawn was nearby. lol
The reason I love the picture is that it represents hope of course but also represents the slow growth it takes to be able to even have the chance of that hope. This plant had to grow out of the ground and survive rain, evident by the water droplets on it. That's how I feel right now. We've only half grown from the ground I think and by the time he hits Logan airport he'll have those water droplets showing the struggle we went through. Maybe it will be from the tears of missing me. Maybe from the sweat of worry and fret, not knowing what our future holds. Either way it will be well earned.
assalam alaykum

It's rainy and gloomy here today. Not much personal stuff to talk about so I thought I'd present an article I saw on the upcoming forum between Pope Benedict XVI and various leaders of Islam from around the world. My thoughts are that this could be really really good or really really bad. lol


March 6, 2008
Pope approves permanent Catholic-Muslim forum
Richard Owen of The Times in Rome
In a ground breaking move Pope Benedict XVI has approved the setting up of a permanent Catholic-Muslim Forum - the first of its kind - which is to hold its inaugural summit meeting in the Vatican in November.
The historic move follows three days of talks in Rome between Vatican officials and a Muslim delegation representing 138 Muslim scholars who last year wrote an open letter to the Pope and other Christian leaders calling for dialogue, a move inspired by Prince Ghazi bin Muhammed bin Talal of Jordan.
The Muslim initiative was a reponse to the Pope's controversial speech at Regensburg University in his native Germany in 2006, where he appeared to describe Islam as inherently violent and irrational by quoting a Byzantine Emperor. He later said he had been misunderstood, and prayed alongside an imam at the Blue Mosque in Istanbul during a visit to Turkey.
The first summit of the Catholic-Muslim Forum will take place on 4-6 November, the Vatican said, with nearly fifty delegates, and will be addressed by the pontiff. The chosen theme is "Love of God, Love of Neighbour."
A follow up conference is to be held in a Muslim country yet to be decided, according to Ali Aref Nayed, director of the Royal Islamic Strategic Studies Centre in Amman. He said the response to the Group of 138's call for dialogue had been "incredibly positive". The aim was to "return to the roots of faith and what we have in common".
He said resentment over the Pope's Regensburg remarks was still "burning strongly in many parts of the Muslim world". The speech had been a mistake, "but everyone makes mistakes. The important thing is to correct them. This whole initiative is about healing. It is about healing the wounds of a very pained and, in many ways, destroyed world". He said the Muslim majority was not represented by a "loud, violent and cruel minority".
He appealed for the release of Chaldean Archbishop Paulos Faraj Rahho, who was kidnapped last week in Iraq, declaring: "We take this opportunity to remind our fellow Muslims that it is against the Prophet's teaching to even touch religious leaders and monks and priests. Religious leaders and religious symbols must be respected."
The first day of the November summit will focus on Christian and Muslim teachings on the obligation to love both God and one's neighbour, and the second on "human dignity and mutual respect". The third day will be a general discussion open to the public.
Last week Cardinal Jean-Louis Tauran, head of the Pontifical Council for Inter Religious Dialogue, attended an inter-faithconference in Cairo sponsored by Al Azhar University, seen as the intellectual centre of Sunni Islam. In a gesture toward Muslim sensitivities he issued a joint statement with Sheikh Abdel Fattah Alaam, chairman of the Al-Azhar Dialogue Committee, "strongly condemning" the "re-publication of offensive cartoons and the rising number of attacks against Islam and its Prophet".
A number of Danish dailies last week reprinted a cartoon featuring the Prophet Mohammed's head with a turban in the form of a bomb with a lit fuse. The joint statement condemned "violence, extremism and terrorism" in general, and said freedom of expression should "not be used as a pretext for offending religions, convictions, religious symbols and everything that is considered sacred."
Asked why the joint document had failed to call on Islamic rulers to make a reciprocal gesture by respecting the religious beliefs and rights of Christians in the Middle East, Father Andrea Pacini, a Vatican expert on Islam, said the issue was "delicate". He said the picture was "mixed", with some Arab countries restricting or forbidding Christian worship but others allowing the construction of new churches.
Yahya Sergio Yahe Pallavicini, deputy head of the Italian Islamic Religious Community, who attended this week's talks in Rome, said he hoped Muslims would join the Pope in "deeper dialogue on doctrine, theology and the character of religions in today's world". All religious leaders must "isolate extremists and avoid the wrong use of religion", he said.
Ali Aref Nayed said he realised that Pope Benedict was exercised about restrictions on religious freedom faced by Christians in Muslim countries, but said he hoped the Catholic-Muslim Forum would not turn into "an exchange of grievances". It should instead be a gathering in which both sides could support religious freedom "for all people".
In a written statement Abdal Hakim Murad Winter, director of Britain's Muslim Academic Trust, who took part in this week's preparatory talks, said those who believed in the one God had a responsibility to reach out to each other.
There was a widespread sense in the West "that religion brings discord rather than healing to the world," he wrote, but "the reality of engagement between believers of different traditions is overwhelmingly one of conviviality". Extremists on all sides obscured this "by using language of exclusion and contempt".
Other Muslim delegates to Rome this week were Ibrahim Kalin, director of the SETA Foundation in Ankara and Sohail Nakhooda, editor of Islamica Magazine in Jordan. The Vatican participants were Cardinal Tauran, Archbishop Pier Luigi Celata, secretary of the Council for Interreligious Dialogue, Monsignor Khaled Akasheh, head of the Council's section for relations with Muslims, Father Miguel Ayuso Guixot, President of the Pontifical Institute for Arabic and Islamic Studies, and Father Christian Troll, an expert on Islam at the Pontifical Gregorian University.
Assalam alaykum

If anyone actually reads this blog......I apologize for not writing anything in a while. Updates are that my husband arrived safely in Boston on April 11, 2008, alhumdulilah. He has adjusted very well to life here and my daughters have become quite attached to him.

Someday I think I'd like to write about being a single mother. Technically I guess I'm no longer a single mom, though the only thing that has changed is that I am now married. When a single mom gets married it's not like the husband is automatically replacing the void of having a father live in the house everyday so I think there should be some term for the women who's children's fathers live elsewhere who do have a husband. My husband is a big help, as much as he is allowed to be, in that he passes time with my girls thus giving me free time to do laundry, dishes, etc. I still feel the burden though of being the sole decision maker in much of their lives.

I think I haven't written about this subject before because it's almost like letting down the wall of a dam..........once I tap into the emotional side of single motherhood I think I'd have to take about a month off not just from work but from life in general. LOL.

Anyways that is just food for thought for later writing options.

ma salaam :)
Assalam alaykum,

So much for the writings about single motherhood :P. That will have to wait for another day. For now much of my focus and energy has been on getting pregnant.

I am 42 and have noticed that there really isn't that much in the way of support for women over 40 trying to conceive or having children. That boggles my mind since everywhere I personally look there are older moms out there with either big bellies or little ones in hand.

The biggest dilemma is whether to just let nature take it's course or to nudge it along. We are only in our third month of TTC, but still, given my age we have made an appt to see a fertility specialist so see what our options are. The rollercoaster ride that is the wait between ovulation and the arrival of the dreaded aunt flo is so amazingly emotionally stressful!!! There's even a website on it www.twoweekwait.com . Reading how some of the women overanalyze each twinge, nauseous millisecond, etc. in the hopes that it's a sign of pregnancy you'd think they should all be comitted...............until you're actually in that 2wkwait yourself!

Anyways just thought I'd make a note and any and all duas are very very welcome.
Assalam alaykum

This is my third year celebrating Ramadan, alhumdulilah, and because it is my first year living with my husband it warrants a post. :) The differences between this year and the last two years are too many to list so I'll just hi light the ones that are biggest imho:

Group Effort: Before living with my husband it was me and me alone on this journey of fasting and I felt so very isolated. Now I have not only someone to commiserate with when we both have migraines from lack of food but someone to help me get out of bed in the morning! Our pattern has been to wake at 4am, he will cook suhoor (normally eggs and some cheese and tomatoes with pita bread and tea), we eat, we pray, we go back to bed. Iftar is my duty while the tea after is his. We're a well oiled machine I tell ya!

Womanly Hiatus: This has always been viewed as a blessing to me in the past but this year it saddens me that I am not fasting on some of the days while he is. It feels like that deep, strong connection and bonding is lost while I await the day where I can once again join my husband. I know that it is from Allah so I abide by the rules but it's just not the same, you know? :(

Culture Shock: Hehehe. I remember when we were still waiting for my husband's visa I would complain about how hard it is to fast to him and he would sternly tell me how it is our obligation, blah blah blah. Well sure, easy for him to say since he was living in Cairo and sleeping basically from Fajr till Maghrib!!! Now that he is working full time I am able to see how this obligation is viewed in quite a different light! :P That's all I'll say about that!

I'm doing my best to abstain from the worldly part of the Internet though I must say the presidential election has my interest peaked big time these days so I do still read the news. I just try to stay away from the controversial blogs that attack this that or the other thing, which lately is hard to do given all the ammo that's been put out there!

All in all I think a lot of lessons are being learned this year for how to make next year more fulfilling. In the end it will never be the same as it was when I was alone and for that I am truly blessed. :)
Assalam alaykum,

I hope that everyone is gaining spiritually from this blessed month of Ramadan. Most people set goals in the beginning that they wish to achieve by the end of this month. For me personally, whenever a goal is set I do my best not to reach it. I tend to avoid any and all additional responsibility to my life like the plague. Seriously, I was psyched when my 11 yr old announced that she won't be playing field hockey this season because that's one less thing for me to do!

I digress......I think I've hit a milestone in my search for the meaning of this life here on Earth. When I look at the verse 51:56 in the Quran it tells me what my meaning here is:

"I have only created Jinns and men, that they may serve Me."

Below is a quick and dirty analysis of the above verse and is only by me and me alone so if I make a mistake I ask for forgiveness. I am not a scholar...far from it!!! Just my synopsis of what this means to me.

I= Allah so there's no room for questioning this one.
ONLY=no OTHER purpose whatsoever do I have but to serve Allah. That's it. I'm not here to make money, live in a nice home, drive a good car, eat the best of foods. Nope. I'm here for ONLY one purpose and that is to serve Allah.
created= It's not like Allah just found us and said, " from now on you will only serve me!". Nope. He CREATED us for the sole purpose of serving Him. We were made for this.
This brings a whole new perspective on what I'm doing each and every day. I know that I am supposed to say bismillah before I eat and pretty much before I do anything at all since each and every action I make on this Earth can be made into a prayer to Allah. What I never understood is why. Why should I make everything a prayer? Well guess what...it's why I'm here silly!!!!!!

I have read that verse about 10 times since I converted three years ago but just last night did the sun rise over this marble head!!! I guess it started when my husband and I were walking while eating ice cream after iftar on Revere Beach Saturday night. He made a comment that suprised me (because it was deep and he's not usually like that) and made me think. He said he is shocked at how Americans here hold on so very tightly to this life and compared us to people he knows in Egypt who view life here as a trip...a very temporary trip. I made a joke that life certainly can be pretty trippy at times but that's not what he meant. :P

I hope that I can from now on make my life a big worship-fest for Allah! When I got into my car to drive to work this morning I did it in the name of Allah. When I began to run my reports I did it in the name of Allah. I did not miss the opportunity to pray duhr here today because that is one of the biggest gifts I think that I have been given......a true way to worship Allah.